Everyone is so tightly wound up from all the pressures of the world that they will pop. Their heads are so fussy that they feel like they are doing a lot but getting nowhere. I challenge you to let it all go and just stop worrying about how this person will feel or act or if you don’t do this or how this awful thing might happen. You know what…an awful thing might just happen. But all the worry in the world isn’t going to change that. Maybe you just need to accept that. Accept what is and relax into it.
Maybe you feel a massive amount of pain in your body so you can’t relax cause it hurts so much. I feel for you, I really do. It’s hard to think about anything else when you are in pain – that can be emotional or physical. Try this…. Put your feet out in front of you and bend forward to stretch you get to a point where it hurts. Sometimes it can be a sharp pain and very unpleasant. What if you didn’t resist it and cling on for dear life to stop yourself from moving any further forward cause you are worried that if you don’t cling on you will fall more forward and it will cause more pain. What if instead you relaxed. I mean totally relaxed all the muscles and let them do what they want. You will then feel the pain in one area but it’s nowhere near as intense, it starts to fade doesn’t it? Then you feel the pain move to another area and then it too starts to fade and so on. Then you find you can actually bend further forward and it;s not that painful after all. If you compare the two methods the second one is much more pleasant. So let’s stop resisting and let go so we can move forward.
Put down that post it note
Put down that post it note pad where you are going to tell someone what to do and go over and talk to them. Have a conversation. When was the last time you had a conversation with the people at work and found out how they really feel. You might be saying that work isn’t the place to do that. Well I ask you this, is that the world you want to live in. One where we bark orders at people all day and reduce the amount of time they have to do something and then get upset when it isn’t perfect? Make a choice to live the life you want. Everything is a choice.
How do you feel?
So many people don’t actually have any idea how they real feel about something. Seriously, there are a lot of people like that. You could ask them what they think about something or how they feel about it and they don’t know. They have shut down their emotions and senses. We all need to open up and let love in. Try this exercise. Close your eyes and take a deep breath and fill you chest and feel you heart opening right up and outwards. Now then let the breath go and let out all the crap. Breath in again and feel your heart opening outwards and breath out all the crap. It actually makes you feel better. Try to do that everything you think about it for two weeks. So do it as much as you can until it starts to become a habit.
Let go of brain fog
People are so busy. There is too much to do that they don’t get anything done and go nowhere fast. There heads are full of other people’s stuff. They have brain fog. All brain fog is, a heavy cloud of unnecessary worry. There are some people that try and force their negative pressure and ideas onto you. You get worried that if you don’t take this crap on board they could make your life hell. But I dare you to take a step back and really observe what that person is doing. Watch them and their behaviour. Take a good look. That’s their stuff. Why would you want to take on their stuff. That’s crazy. You might be right that person might make your life hell if you don’t behave the way they want. But it’s making your life hell by behaving the way they want. Let them have their own stuff and deal with your stuff. Take a look inside yourself and see what’s going on. If you release the worry you will find you head starts to release the fog and heaviness and you have time to do more and get more done cause you’re not worry about other people’s stuff. You can open your mind to new possibilities. You can get out of that rut and free yourself up. You just need to take the first step and the second and keep on stepping.
You try so hard because you don’t want to make a mistake. You know what, we all make mistakes everyday. By worry about every little thing you aren’t allowing yourself to have fun. You might make that mistake anyway. If you think about it the purpose of life and all of this, it is simply to learn and have fun. Really think about it. Let me know if you think otherwise. So if learning and having fun is what it is all about then that means that no one is perfect. It’s ok to make mistakes.
So I challenge you all to choose to be kinder to yourselves and others. Go and observe what is really going on around you. Really see the crazy behaviour and really see the beauty of the people at work, at home, everywhere. Watch and appreciate just how great someone else is. Put down the post it note and have a conversation, add some more budget and time onto that project and allow others to relax so they can let the magic flow and be paid what they are worth. Appreciate your own worth and beauty. Breath and relax into life and let it all flow naturally and let the worries of others go. Focus on yourself and go inwards and take a look around, you might be surprised at what you find out.
You may find that you need help to let go of the patterns in your brain keeping you going round in circles or holding you back. So go and do that. Go and see a Kinesiologist and become a better version of yourself – a happier and relaxed version.
When setting goals for the new year I find people often miss a couple of important steps and tricks. Try these 3 steps to create a new year that fulfills.
Many of us are crap at dealing with emotions. It's not due to lack of trying or poor skills, but is actually interference blocking us from processing them.