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Ego is not a dirty word - or is it?
lion and lamb
Ego is not a dirty word - or is it?

If we look at the song by Skyhooks “Ego is not a dirty word” what do we really see? Is it some deep insight that we sometimes get from musicians or is it someone trying to hide their insecurities?

Here’s some of the words to the song….

If I did not have an ego I would not be here tonight

If I did not have an ego I might not think that I was right

If you did not have an ego you might not care the way you dressed

If you did not have an ego you’d just be like the rest

 

Ego is not a dirty word

Ego is not a dirty word

Ego is not a dirty word

Don’t you believe what you’ve seen or heard

 

If Jesus had an ego he’d still be alive today

And if Nixon had no ego he might not be in decay

If you did not have an ego you might not care too much who won

If I did not have an ego I might just use a gun

 

Ego is not a dirty word

Ego is not a dirty word

Ego is not a dirty word

Don’t you believe what you’ve seen or heard

 

The ego is our sense of self esteem or self importance. To stand on a stage and perform you might just need to inflate your ego a bit so it doesn’t seem so overwhelming. Either that or take drugs as many musicians seem to do. So it begs the question – if that’s what we have to do to get the job done isn’t that a good thing or is it actually stopping us from achieving more and becoming our true selves?

More the knowledge lesser the ego, lesser the knowledge more the ego – Einstein

Our ego is our conscious self. It can often be something we try to live up to because we think we are supposed to be a certain way. For example being a parent is a tough job and often we are told to be a certain way to be a good parent. There is so much pressure to be a good parent and not mess up our kids the way our parents messed us up. When we constantly read and hear things that other parents are doing or what experts say to do, it can deflate our ego and confidence. So we start acting the way we think we are supposed to be rather than being guided by our own instincts and belief systems.

This leads to deflating of the ego or over-inflating of the ego to cope and to avoid looking at ourselves honestly. Sometimes it creeps up on us in the form of jealousy or competitiveness. Often we compare ourselves to others or see a version of ourselves that we think we should be and when we don’t live up to that we either get jealous or compete with others to boost our ego. It’s like a little dirty secret that we keep to ourselves cause we are so ashamed it. Is it time we outted our little dirty secrets and shattered them, to release ourselves from their power?

If we take a deeper look at why we might be behaving in a a way we might see that we are under so much pressure to be perfect and live up to what society expects us to be? Is it all an illusion? Are we setting ourselves up for failure, which can only impact our self-esteem?

Try this exercise

Take a good look at every single person you know. Who out of those people has a low self esteem, who is over-compensating and boosting their self esteem and who genuinely is 100% comfortable with who they are and are truly humble and neither of those?

Does this exercise change your view of the world?

Have you ever noticed that when you show some people their true self in a completely non-aggressive way, just simply reveal how they may have made a mistake or may be misinterpreting something (even when said with love) they immediately turn it around and reveal something about you that is not one of your best points? I’m finding it actually starting to become more regularly used form of distraction.

This is their ego stepping in and trying to create a way for them to avoid looking at themselves. It takes the focus off them. It’s actually kind of comical and fear based. It seems to me that these people are afraid of really looking at themselves and their faults. They feel pressured by the fact that we live in a society where anything but perfection is not accepted.

I’d like to not only challenge the belief that we need to be perfect but shatter it.

Aren’t we all just here to learn? Don’t we learn something everyday? Well, if you are paying attention you do learn everyday, don’t you? If that is the case – if we are all simply learning, then no one is perfect. So isn’t it time we stopped trying to be perfect and just accept ourselves for who we are? Then we don’t have to have a deflated ego cause we don’t have an image of ourselves that we can’t live up to. Or we don’t have to inflate our ego to hide who we think we are supposed to be and can’t live up to? We just simply be ourselves and realise that by doing that we see all our beauty and magic that has been hidden by the belief that we are supposed to be a certain way.

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