I often hear about people leaving a job because they aren’t being treated well in the workplace. Maybe the boss makes promises and doesn’t deliver or they just push you to work, work, work and you miss out on life or it could be bullying and manipulation tactics going on.
It’s likely that many of you can relate to this as the statistics for bullying in the workplace are about 5% higher in Australia than other countries. Safe Work Australia says that 1 in 3 women and 1 in 5 men have made claims for bullying in 2017. 37% of people also claim to have been sworn at or yelled at in the workplace. And that’s only the people who have made claims.
These results are staggering. Reading that, especially if you are one of the people experiencing it right now could send you into a pit of confusion and depression and create a feeling of powerlessness to change your life for the positive and may even cause you to give up.
The treatment in the workplace may lead you to doubt yourself and wonder what the hell you are doing wrong. This may have led to more doubt, but this time you’re doubting that you will ever find a job or workplace that suits you. Then you might even give up and dwell in a pile of despair.
Is it something you’re doing wrong?
So you wonder if it’s something wrong with you. I’m going to tell you straight up – yes. But not for the reasons you may think. You are attracting this kind of behaviour. Here’s how it works. Everything is energy in motion and it constantly changes by the power of our consciousness and what we see and feel in the world around us. Our thoughts create our physical reality.
If you’ve experienced traumatic situations such as abuse, accidents, heartbreaks and betrayals these register in our “cellular memory” and create blockages within our energy body obstructing the free flow of energy. Cells have memory and they store remembrances of shock and trauma until such a time a person deals with them and releases them.
Unresolved trauma not only weighs a person down but can develop into depression, brain fog, anxiety and physical sickness. The lighter the emotional load you are carrying, the easier it is for your body to regenerate.
When we have stressful events happen in our lives that we don’t resolve within ourselves they sit and the longer they are left they incubate a problem and more often than not they create negative beliefs. Especially in the situation where manipulation and bullying is happening, it is very likely you’ll create negative beliefs because if you are told something enough you will start to believe it. Even if it’s only a little bit, that’s enough to set you back.
The brain and neural networks become disorganised, so the brain fires more rapidly or inappropriately. This creates a chronic stress response that may affect many systems of the brain and body, especially those involved with emotion, sensory perception and cognitive function. For example, you may be at your workplace and get triggered by your boss yelling at you or humiliating you and may find yourself freezing up and unable to respond and kicking yourself afterwards for doing nothing.
Changing the way you react to situations
First we need to recognise that we can release negative beliefs and unresolved emotions that trigger us and hold us in negative states and reacting to situations in a negative and unhelpful way.
Have you ever heard of brain plasticity? It’s the brain’s ability to change throughout life. The human brain has the amazing ability to reorganise itself by forming new connections between brain cells (neurons). You can read more about it in “The Brain That Changes Itself: Stories of Personal Triumph from the Frontiers of Brain Science,” Norman Doidge.
When Neuroplasticity occurs in the brain
2- In case of brain injury – to compensate for lost functions or maximise remaining functions.
3- Through adulthood – whenever something new is learned and memorised
For a long time, it was believed that as we aged, the connections in the brain became fixed. Research has shown that in fact the brain never stops changing through learning. Plasticity is the capacity of the brain to change with learning. Changes associated with learning occur mostly at the level of the connections between neurons. New connections can form and the internal structure of the existing synapses can change.
For instance, London taxi drivers have a larger hippocampus, in the posterior region of the brain, than London bus drivers (Maguire, Woollett, & Spiers, 2006). Why is that? The hippocampus region of the brain specialises in acquiring and using complex spatial information in order to navigate efficiently. Taxi drivers navigate around London whereas bus drivers only follow a limited set of routes.
The next step to changing patterns in the brain
For our mind and bodies to work harmoniously and in a receptive and balanced manner all the brain structures, hormones, organs, glands and cells need to work together. A negative belief can create imbalance in the body by changing the vibration in areas of your body.
For example you may have got a virus that created a cough. A negative belief you had at the time made you susceptible to getting this virus and once it enters your body it changes the vibration in your chest and throat which in turn creates a cough. It could be because you aren’t speaking up about something or speaking your truth or having difficult communication with someone. That negativity can change the vibration of the flow. Where there may have once been a vibration of 628mhz, it now may vibrate at 123mhz.
Now the energy is bouncing of each other confused and unsure of what to do rather than flowing in a smooth direction. Because your lungs and bronchial tubes etc may now be working more in isolation than together. This can create disease or issues and allow for virus’ or bacteria to be introduced to the body.
We can see that we need to bring order to the body, and let it know what it needs to do to release the confusion and change the vibration to it’s natural state. This can be done in a number of ways. You can release the negative beliefs and emotions by pin pointing when they were created and how they are affecting you brain and body from integrating and release the negative energetic charge or find the correct vibration to balance it out to restore it to its natural state. Just like your stomach ph levels being too high create acidity, which leads to disease, the same is for a energetic frequency on your body – it too creates imbalance.
Methods to overcoming patterns creating stress in your life and workplace
You can retrain the brain through repeated exercises. This involves a step by step process that involves visual, spatial, movement, language and emotional restructuring exercises to regulate the chronic stress response and promote optimal health. This results in a decrease of the firing of threat and protective mechanisms, allowing for the formation of new neural pathways.
There are a number of methods that can help with retaining your brain such as; cognitive-behaviour therapy, mindfulness based cognitive restructuring, emotional restructuring therapy, neural linguistic programming, behaviour modification therapy
The one that I prefer that I find the most effective and quickest to see deep, lasting result is Kinesiology. The tools of Kinesiology releases negative energetic charge, energy vibration imbalance and pinpoints the negative beliefs and releasing them using the non-invasive powerful tools of Kinesiology and frequencies.
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